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Something we should all always be aware of online.

The cartoon is funny but there is a strong message within it. Please always be aware of who you share your email and details with, a name here, where you went to school, what year that was etc. The serious stalker can piece all these details together. You just never know who you have at the other end of the line, it just might be a dog, especially if he keeps talking about bones and typing woof

PLEASE BE INTERNET SAVVY

FAKE PROFILES

Please be aware to fake profiles on the internet. Often the quality of their photos are very poor and they are extremely small and common sometimes the photo format is one not often or rarely used for uploading photos, this is because they have been copied and pasted from elsewhere on the net. I had the fortune lol if you could call it that LOL! to meet someone recently I asked him to prove it was him and he wasn't able to. He would always have some excuse, his cam was broken, his computer needed repairing, he couldn't plug his camera into his computer as the lead was broken or lol his CPU needed repairing or he needed help from the Tech guy at work. Based in Bahrain lol! need I say more of his origins. I spoke to him on the phone and his accent didn't ring true, nor did his vocabuary it certainly did not fit with his nationality and where he had lived. As a Medium I saw right through him. I have and many others out there have come into contact with this character. If someone is genuine, there will be no hesitation to show their face on cam or send you a photo with a newspaper showing a current headline and today's date failing that holding a card with their name and date. One last thing be very wary of someone who asks you for naughty photos of yourself or asks you for cyber sex, the genuine friend wont ask you such requests. I wasn't fooled by Sam here but many have before and others will in the future, so listen to your intuition.

Like the cartoon above of the dog on the internet, you cannot be sure to whom you are chatting to. If you start to develop a deeper relationship with anyone on the net always ask for proof.

HACKERS AND STALKERS WHATS THE DIFFERENCE? PLEASE CLICK ON THE LINK BELOW. ARTICLE COURTESY OF BADTEDDY.COM CLICK HERE TO GO TO BADTEDDY.COM

CYBERBULLIES AKA STALKERS (SEE ALSO FORUM "TROLLS")
What is an Internet stalker?

At its mildest, a stalker is simply a troll that has attached itself to an individual. At worst, boring, at best, flattering. Find out about trolls. But a stalker can be a serious predator, using the Internet to pursue a real or imagined vendetta, or other perverted agenda. Risk assessment is an essential first step.
How dangerous is it?

Start by thinking about who it is; is it someone you have simply upset on the Internet, someone with whom you've had a relationship? Is it someone you knew before, or have met in the real world?

Think about where you see it - newsgroups? forums? chat rooms? email?

What does it say? Is it a matter of direct insults? Is it lies and rumors? Does it reveal information not generally known that you want kept secret?

When - and how often - does it appear?

How is it threatening? Is it simply annoying, or do you fear direct contact, betrayal or what? Think about the worst it can do ... how bad is that?

Why are you being stalked - is it simply spite and boredom, is it envy or resentment? Have you done anytghing thast you think may have set it off?

Once you can answer these questions, you will havce a clearer idea of what you are dealing with, and how quickly you may need to act.
What To Do - General Advice

1. In virtually every case, the first line of defence is to do nothing; simply treat it as a troll and ignore it - most will go away fairly quickly. remember, these creatures are a form of troll; if they fail to get rapid feedback, their inclination is to move on- they usually have neither the stamina nor the intelligence for a difficult situation.

2. But - however mild this stalker appears - always save every message you receive. A good way to do this is to create a new folder in your mailbox, and move all mails or copy newsgroup postings to that folder. I'd advise keeping this folder for at least a year after the last post, possibly longer. This can be a useful store of evidence, if later required, and can help in identifying the stalker.

3. Consider your options. Retaliation will make you feel better, but can be risky; as it make inspire, provoke or enable the stalker to strike further. For example, using the stalker's guestbook to warn them is risky if you have a guestbook that is open to attack. But if it is reasonably safe, then attack - let the stalker know that you are not afraid of electrons!

4. By definition, a stalker is a coward, like all bullies, like all who attack from behind, or in the dark. Be sure to mention this in every attack.

5. Stalkers make it personal - You make it impersonal. Minimise any private response you make; maximise every public response.

6. Not invariably, but usually, stalkers are none too bright; as JR would say, "The Elevator Don't Reach the Top Floor" - few intelligent people would go down the road to stalksville. Some, of course, are severely mentally ill. If you suspect that, then do not engage the stalker in any kind of dialog - just keep careful records and make appropriate reports.

7. Be Reasonable - Your attacks should be in response to the stalker's - and their first line of defense will be to accuse you of stalking - so don't go over the top. You'll usually be amazed how easy it is to attack a stalker, but exercise restraint. If they write in your forum, and it's safe to respond - then write in theirs. But be honest, brief and to the point - even if you post in every thread.

8. Keep records of all that you do, as well as what they do - and consider writing a web diary, or opening a web page to expose them. They may well have a reputation to lose - if they deserve to lose it, help them to lose it (example - The Zeppo).

9. Share The Laughter - However unnerving a stalker may be, if you look at them coldly in the light of day, they are pretty ridiculous. Some are Nothing But Ridiculous (example - Spiro). Savour that; turn it around, let them - and the world - see how ridiculous they are. Every time you mock them, you gain, and they lose. Share The Laughter.

10. Be consistent - once you have identified their weaknesses (besides being a loopy, cowardly piece of slime!), use the information against them, in every response.

11. Be careful - one of the first defences of a stalker is to claim that you stalked them, and any defence by you may be used against you as claimed cyberbullying.

INFORMATION COURTESY OF http://www.flayme.com/stalker/
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HOW TO CREATE AN EXTERNAL HYPERLINK

You may want to create a hyperlink to an external site such as Flickr or Photobucket etc. This is useful as your page is limited on how much storage you are allowed and it also solves the problem of slow loading pages when you have widgets and gizmos on your page as anything with javascript does affect the download speed.

Click on EDIT at the corner of your page's text box






Click on the hyperlink symbol as in the diagram above. You will then be prompted to add a website url to where your external album is hosted i.e. your Flickr site etc, here I have just entered my webpage address. A code will appear in your text box. Between the two arrows as in the diagram add some text ie. "Click here" this will form your hyperlink to where your album is hosted. Then click save. You have now created a hyperlink to your external album

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Oh, lols. I have a problem...No matter what, every time I have veggies on my sandwich, lettuce, tomato, etc......I end up with diarrhea. I'm serious. It seems, actually that I have diarrhea just, every time I eat. My stomach just turns. I don't know what's up with me.

Vicky veggie Well Vicky, your problem could be caused by a number of things. Vegetables have a high content of cellulose and are good for us as they help sweep out our intestines of toxic waste and help us from developing constipation. However in your case, this is not helping you. You don't say if you are having this problem with fruit, for like vegetables they also contain lots of fibre. A balanced diet with a high proportion of fruit and vegetables is necessary for minerals and vitamins so I dont think you should abstain from eating them else your health could be at risk. You also dont say if you just have one loose stool or a series of diarrhea movements. Other things common to causing this could be anxiety (from a complementary medicine point of view anxiety affects the solar plexus and this chakra governs the intestines) and a few other problems. If this is a regular occurrence it would be a good idea to mention it to your doctor as certain medications you are on too can be the cause. In general anyone who has a change to their bowel movements with or without blood appearing in their stool or on the toilet paper should have this checked. Maggie

Dear Maggie, I am having problems with my skin, its always shiny and I have large pores across my nose and chin with dry flaky patches on my cheeks. My make up never seems to stay put and slides down my face on to my collar. My best friend told me it was the washing up liquid I wash my face with that is causing this. What can I do? ANXIOUS

Well anxious, there is some truth in what your friend is telling you. You should not be cleansing your face with a detergent designed for washing greasy plates. From what you tell me, it sounds as if you have a combination type of skin, with an oily centre panel and drier cheeks. So you should be using a product designed for combination skin. You don't have to pay a fortune for skin care there are many good ranges and you need to start with a good regular routine of cleanse toning and moisturising twice daily. When cleansing its important to cleanse twice once to remove surface grime and make up and the second to deep cleanse the skin, followed by a toner to help remove the residue of cleanser and close the pores. The correct moisturiser for your skin type will help balance the skin. Soap should not be used on your complexion either as soap being alkaline strips away the protective acid mantle which helps protect the skin from bacteria thus rendering the skin more liable to spots. Exfoliation using a product thats not too harsh and not crushed peach kernels as these can scratch the skin but one that contains tiny spheres will remove dead skin cells and help stop blocked pores and blackheads. In your case of your oily T zone twice weekly and once weekly across the drier cheek area. A regular routine will help the overall condition of your skin. Make sure you use a foundation suitable for your skin type and allow your moisturiser to sink into your before applying. You should see a difference within 2 to 3 weeks Maggie

CUSTOMISING YOUR PAGE.

Ok guys you want to know how to change the backgrounds and customise your page. Once you get the hang of it its quite easy. When i set this up I thought what would you all like. Well I knew you liked the simplicity of the blogging, I knew you liked to be able to change your background. I knew you liked adding videos and you wanted something stable. I knew you all wanted to be together. I also made this network open to all. Hopefully I haven't created a monster but we are still bound by terms and conditions and hopefully wont be a rubber teeth organisation like Yahoo. I think I found everything you wanted in Ning. I added every service I could think of lol. And yes you have to make do with my pen name lol, well I created it lol Oooooo the power lol!

Seriously let me talk you through how to change things and move your boxes around. Let's start with the boxes. They all have to stay in their respective columns but you can put them in the order you want, its simple just click on the edge and drag for PC users probably right click and pull to where you want.

To change colours and themes add a background etc on your left hand column you will notice a little box under your photo where is says "change my photo or theme" click on it (Now I selected this pink and black theme as a basic as you know me for pink but you don't have to keep it lol unless you want to lol)

edit your appearance page will come up, click a theme (this one I selected is called 'social blush') now customise it how you want.

You will see three columns, basic (now you can keep the themes colours if you want or click 'all options' do not click Advanced unless you are adept at CSS and html. So lets be daring and click all options.

The funny checkerboard thing means transparent to change all you do is click and your colour options come up, chose whatever and a way you go.

So thats the colour done, now lets try a background pic. There are several options to use a pic Side image, thats down the sides of your page, the header at the top, and the body of the page thats the centre, you could have a real busy background here and cover your page in You, You and You doing allsorts of activies or postions, the mind boggles lol.

So to change, you will see a camera icon go on be daring and click, You know you want to lol! Click where it says none a window will open up and you have an option to upload from your computer, then click done and thats all you do. Once you have the hang of this, the possibilities are endless, giving you more control and possibilities than the old 360.

Lets go on to adding widgets, if like me you are a snapvine fan and like to amuse yourself listening to others make a fool of themselves, hey come on its fun and if you cant laugh at yourself, what a sad world this would be you do this in the centre column all you do is click edit and add the javascript or html and away you go. Unlike multiply widget adding is easy as javascript is not always accepted there.

On the left under the profile pic you will see a link to click add profile Apps, click that and it will give you some more suggestions.

Lets go to Photos next dead easy just click and the options come up you can upload direct from your computer or from Flickr or whatever.

Groups next, well if you want another group say " Martha's Millionaires" well here it gives you the option to create send out invites, the option to make it open or select say to those gentlemen Martha has stipulated only earn a lot of money and she can Moderate it. Hey form your own clique whatever lol! Just be nice lol!

lets move on to videos, now this feature is better than 360, you can add from You Tube or Goggle just as you did before using the embed code or add your own home videos from your computer Oooo what fun lol! use your phone to make videos up load it to your computer and bore us all silly with Bob blowing raspberries what the heck, this is YOUR site make it fun. To do just click where it says add videos and the loading page comes up follow the instructions.

Music is a bit tricky, we are bound by copyright here and quite rightly I make my living from royalties and in my first book it was only 10% of the wholesale value, if someone buys it or borrows it from the library or wishes to post excerpts you have to give me 40 pence lol, so please read the small print when uploading, but if you are familiar with Multiply its exactly the same to upload from your computer.

Supposing you havent got permission well guys I have thought of this to keep to the rules ADD a WIDGET a music player from certain sites such as the one I have on my Web page http://www.maggiebrownonline.com Now lol to find out what that is You will have to go look, hehehehehe Maggie has ways of making you visit. All you do here is add the javascript of the music player to your centre box and viola your music, you can stick a video slapbang in the middle there if you want. Play around and enjoy.

Feeds are easy if you know your feed URL just click and add. I will at some point show you how to burn a feed to any page you like at some point but I think you've enough to do right now.

Lets have fun and no drama

However supposing this site gets infected, I've made it open to increase numbers, well there is a way to deal with this too. Under the profile you click "remove friend and ignore messages. You can even set your comments to be approved only so no one can random leave comments if you don't want. I think I have covered everything.

Lastly you are bound by the terms and conditions of Ning so check them out please.

Now what are you waiting for go out and multiply and lets make this better than 360

Oh one other thing we can link this page to our Yahoo Profiles, via making links in your welcome box in the middle here and through Yahoo Buzz Blog Logs. Yahoo have automatically provided you with this feature but I will explain about that later

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